Let’s get one thing straight...
There’s nothing wrong with a conventional wedding. Then again, it’s certainly not a stretch to say that they’re not for everyone. These days, weddings don’t always fit that “one-size-fits-all” approach.
When we think of planning our wedding, many of us get that deer-in-the-headlights look—and for good reason. And soon thereafter, we’re flooded with a million questions:
Should I invite my old high school buddy?
What food should be served?
Oh, and what venue should we go with?
And never mind your own initial questions; those are just the beginning.
If the idea of a traditional wedding stresses you out, or if you’re a fan of alternative spins on tradition (like the unconventional ring), you may also be a fan of the unconventional wedding.
Here are three reasons why you should consider that eclectic wedding idea you’ve been thinking about:
Let’s take a look at the facts: The average cost of a wedding in the United States is $30,000. But is a luxurious, high-end wedding always best? Well, as it turns out, maybe not.
A recent study showed that couples who spend $20,000+ on their weddings are 46% more likely to end up divorced.
And that’s not all.
Couples who vouch for weddings with a price tag of $1,000 or lower are a whopping 53% less likely to end up divorced.
OK, OK—I know that divorce rates are the last thing you want to be thinking about. So let’s move on.
Despite the fact that bridezillas and million-dollar weddings are gaining momentum in the media, it’s no secret that unconventional weddings are alive and well.
People are getting married underwater, on mountain tops (the ultimate test of endurance for guests?), in caves, and even on glaciers. These days, anything is possible.
And besides, what’s cooler than saving all that money for a ridiculously awesome honeymoon?
It’s creative and memorable.
Everyone remembers a unique wedding. After all, they’re different and intriguing. Even if some of your guests prefer the atmosphere of a traditional wedding, at least you can be sure of one thing: they definitely won’t be bored.
My husband and I had pretty much the epitome of an unconventional wedding. After he proposed to me, I was consumed by happiness and flooded with a number of thoughts and emotions. But you know what? The venue, food, and the design of our wedding invitations had to be the furthest thing from my mind.
Thoughts of the wedding itself hadn’t even hit me yet.
What I thought about instead was our future, how lucky I was, growing old together, and the incredible promise we had made to one another. To me, that was what was most important.
And when we did begin discussing our wedding plans, it all seemed SO overwhelming.
Until we realized that none of the small details really mattered.
What mattered most was the fact that we would be exchanging our vows and making a life-long commitment to one another—and we came to the conclusion that we would rather avoid the chaos and stress that (sometimes) comes with a big, extravagant wedding.
There are no rules.
While we ultimately have the final say when it comes to wedding festivities, alternative weddings breed creativity and freedom. If you want a wedding that is totally out-of-the-ordinary, the sky is truly the limit. You’d be doing something completely new—exploring uncharted territory without a book of rules.
Star Wars theme? Sure. All guests will receive lightsabers? No problem.
When it comes to the wedding theme itself, nothing is too outlandish.
My husband and I didn’t even need to rent a venue; we were married in the woods. Or, shall I say, a “beautiful, forested setting.”
Our ceremony took place in Alaska, next to a big lake—complete with a scenic mountain view. There was no dress code and we invited just a few of our loved ones.
After the ceremony, there was a bonfire where each of our friends made a speech and passed around a drinking horn full of delicious mead.
The after-party took place at—and this is no exaggeration—an old roadhouse bar. It was rustic, casual, and very off the beaten path. We ordered philly cheesesteaks, listened to some good tunes and had an all-around beautiful time. It was extremely low-key and, as a result, enjoyably stress-free.
While there is absolutely nothing wrong with a traditional wedding, they’re certainly not for everyone. So, if you’re planning on an unconventional wedding—hold your head high and have fun with it (despite those naysayers)!
After all, what’s most important is your union together. And that shouldn’t be stressful.